LANGUAGE IS A POWERFUL DRUG.
We believe what we say, what we think, and often we are believing F.E.A.R., that is, F.alse E.vidence A.ppearing R.eal.
CHANGE THE NARRATIVE.
Just by replacing one verb in a message to ourselves, we change the entire paradigm of the task. Let’s use a simple, accessible for-instance, our jobs. Imagine it’s Sunday night, bedtime, after you’ve experienced a glorious weekend. Monday morning will arrive quickly, and with it, the daily trek to the job. You might think: “I HAVE to go to work,” with the imperative “HAVE” carrying the mighty meaning of obligation, or the prospect of loss-of-job if you don’t show up. This will vary according to how you perceive your job.
But just by deleting “HAVE” and substituting “GET,” as…I GET to go to work, perceiving this as an opportunity instead of drudgery, the words shift the emotion from hum-drum chore to positive anticipation.
I have to shop for groceries, or… I GET to shop for groceries.
I maintain that the mild degree of fear that is associated with the performance of unpleasant activities (in this sense, “fear” as “lack of joy”) can be erased and replaced with the empowerment of doing a task with a sense of fulfillment.
You have this power to change the narrative in your story with the simple switch from HAVE to GET.
It’s YOUR CHOICE, you own it.
After all, LANGUAGE IS A POWERFUL DRUG.