Jim and I have been long-acquainted friends, since 1991 when he was building Varment Guard, a pest-control company that he has since sold. He’s now the Regional Co-Director of SixSeconds, The Emotional Intelligence Network, “about being smarter with feelings. More aware. More intentional. More purposeful.”
We reunited at the Roosevelt Coffeehouse February 15, 2018.
Time was a factor that morning, so we got down to it directly.
Jim’s CORE VALUES: His personal mission statement, “To love people unconditionally while maintaining healthy boundaries. My noble goal, my north star, my over-arcing sense of purpose…and I FAIL AT IT EVERY DAY!“ And how does he define unconditional love? “It’s about judgment vs. curiosity in engaging with others; to be non-judgmental is the goal, that’s what unconditional love means.”
Current mission to EFFECT CHANGE: “I work to engage with the people I talk with on the journey, talk about how to engage on this journey together. Then we talk about how to activate our conversation, and then I want to reflect on it with the people I talk to. He cautions that the number of “bad guys” aren’t necessarily increasing, the world isn’t necessarily falling to hell in a hand basket, it’s just that the bad guys are LOUDER, and being amplified by the media.
EARLIEST MEMORY: At age three, walking down a road with his pal Joey, comforting and encouraging Joey, who was crying, saying “It’s going to be all OK.”
Jim’s FEELING of CONNECTEDNESS with others, the TEXTURE OF EMOTION: “I don’t know if there are negative or positive feelings. All feelings have a reason for presenting themselves. We humans decide if they’re negative or positive. We use feelings to navigate, they’re all over our bodies. Think of these chemical peptides as little keys flooding our systems, looking for the lock to unlock.”
SCARCITY/ABUNDANCE: “I never worry, even when I experience scarcity, because I have abundance. To whom much has been given, much is expected. If we have abundance, we need to give; if we don’t have it, well…that’s OK.”
The proverbial “BOX” of which we’re often encouraged to THINK OUTSIDE OF: “I don’t really think about being in a box. I guess the box I want out of is one in which I’m failing, coming short of the noble goal.”
Jim’s MUSE, source of his IDEAS: Listening to people, learning. “I’m more interested in people who are trying to build community, and growth.”
On UNCERTAINTY: “No one understands what the future holds…I’ve never had control, it’s an illusion.”
5-YEARS ahead, 2023: Jim will work with SixSeconds until he can no longer fulfill his duties. On success, on happiness, “I look upon ‘happy’ as an event and ‘joy’ as a lifestyle. Joy doesn’t mean that you’re going to be happy. If we’re in touch with ourselves, joy is how we live each day.”
On his ANCESTORS: Jim can name his antecedents back two generations, to his grandfather.
And finally, Jim…WHATCHA READIN’? Any book written by David Balducci, the pulp fiction writer, for fun, pure enjoyment.
“Our mission is to live life to the best of our understanding of our ability.” – Jim Vaive
Thank You, Jim, for your time and interview.
HOW ABOUT YOU?
Let’s schedule a meeting, SOON, to get acquainted and conduct your interview for “CAFFEINE COMMUNION: Encounters with Paradigm Pioneers.”
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